Effective Discipline and Limits Without a Power Struggle

Effective Discipline and Limits Without a Power Struggle

Effective discipline focuses on the behavior and not the child. Below are some steps to consider while working towards improving your child’s behavior.

• A clear message: State your message in a clear and specific manner. If your child replies “just a second, later, but mommy...” follow with a reasonable consequence for non- compliance. Tell your child exactly what you want him to do, when he must do it, and what happens if he does not. Then walk away.

• Keep your emotions in check: If you show anger, you will be rewarding your child. Your anger will give your child the power over you that she seeks.

• Do not hand down consequences in anger: Your anger will only encourage your child to strike back with anger.

• Smaller consequences work better than bigger consequences: If your child thinks you have punished him too harshly, he will retaliate with power.

• The difference between power and authority lies within you:

 When you have to confront your child, emphasize cooperation, not control.

 Stay calm and rational in spite of the situation.

 Guard your anger button.

 Stop and think.

 Act, do not react.

 Give clear and specific expectations. Explain what will happen if your child chooses not to cooperate.

 Do not give ultimatums.


Look for independence, self-reliance, leadership, and decision making. When your child shows these qualities, spotlight them. Catch him being good. As with most behavior problems, the positive approach is the best remedy for handling power a power struggle.


A Final (and very important) Note

When your child does what you ask without an argument, thank him: A little praise can go a long way.

“Parenting your ADHD Child” Class

“Parenting your ADHD Child”

Class Meets Weekly on Wednesdays
*Pre-registration Required*

Parenting an ADHD child is no walk in the park. As parents we know that we have to make changes and adjustments by the minute. Those who are parents of an ADHD child have to make those same adjustments three seconds ago. This can be very frustrating for the parent and the child. This class will focus on how to make positive changes and ways to strengthen your relationship with your child.

A positive relationship means that you accept and love your child unconditionally. Then you can work with him to establish appropriate behaviors. Accepting your child unconditionally does not mean you accept his behavior unconditionally. It means you keep the two separate and the child knows he is loved even when he is being told his behaviors are unacceptable.

The class will cover:
· Understanding, validating, accepting your ADHD child.
· Attending to positive behaviors
· Teaching relaxation skills

If our expectations are too high, children may become discouraged, frustrated, and give up! A discouraged child feels she is no good, will never be any good, so why try? She will find someplace to fit in as she gets older, and it may not be where you want her to fit in.

Limited group size. Reserve your spot today!
*Pre-registration Required
Wednesdays, 6:00 - 7:30 PM
Tricounty Life Coaching and Family Intervention
Class is at:
895 Island Park Drive
Suite 201
Daniel Island, SC 29492
*above Bohemia Spa
$40.00 per Couple or $25.00 Individual

For information, contact Eric:
eric@tricountylifecoaching.com

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